About the author, Matt Fradd

Matt Fradd is the author of Delivered: True Stories of Men and Woman Who Turned from Porn to Purity. After experiencing a profound conversion at World Youth Day in Rome in 2000, Matt has worked through full-time lay ministry in Australia, Ireland, Canada, and Texas. He has served as an apologist for Catholic Answers and has traveled all over the world, speaking to tens of thousands of teens and young adults. He and his wife Cameron have four children and live in North Georgia.

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The Porn Circuit

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Science shows us why porn is highly addictive. Learn how our neurochemistry is easily hijacked by porn to create compulsive behaviors, and discover how the brain can be rewired to escape porn's allure.

9 thoughts on “What Are the Practical Steps to Quitting Porn?

  1. SAINT Josemaria Escriva de Balaguer? The coarse-mouthed founder of the cult-like Opus Dei? Dude, when Paul wrote, “All the saints salute you”, do you think he was relaying the sympathies of “canonized” (Eh?
    Qu’est-ce que c’est?) individuals to the church at Corinth?

    Luke, you should know better. We need not wink at ecumenism in order to broad-brush the message of freedom from porn.

    • Hey Xavier. I didn’t write this one. It was written by Matt Fradd, one of our Catholic contributors.

      I’m personally not a fan of calling a particular person a Saint, say, over other Christians. On occasion I might do this for certain canonized saints of antiquity—St. Augustine, for example—to distinguish him from other historical Augustines, but only because this is a title for which he has become known to others. All Christians are indeed saints, and I believe Catholic dogma acknowledges this, though I wholeheartedly disagree with the process and purpose of canonization.

      As for Josemaria Escriva, most of the opponents of Opus Dei I’ve read have been more of the liberation theology sort—and I’ve never been much a fan of liberation theology. That said, perhaps a closer look at Opus Dei is warranted when I have some time. I’m not sure popular conceptions of Opus Dei are at all founded in the intentions or thoughts of Escriva himself, but I could be wrong about that.

    • Oops! My faux pas, Luke, and a thousand apologies. (Guess I’ve grown used to your ubiquity on this site but still, there’s no excuse for my bearing false witness against you. Again, I sincerely apologize.) And could you please pass the tenderizer? This crow looks awful tough as is.

    • Luke, I really appreciate your work with Covenant Eyes, but the ecumenism I’ve seen on this site concerns me. Yes, I understand that Roman Catholics have some good things to say on this topic, but should we really be joining hands with Rome?

      ” Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever? Or what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God…” (2 Cor. 6:14-16, NASB).

      Just something to think and pray about! God bless.

  2. What if you wife will not consent to the Sexual Fasting?? I had a counselor recommend a 30 day period of abstinence and she refused. No way she goes for 6 – 8 weeks.

    • I think it would be important for you to show her in other ways besides sex that you’re committed to her. The recommendation for a sexual fast sounds pretty extreme, especially for a woman who may feel like she’s in competition to retain her husband’s interest. She may feel completely unsafe in the relationship without the sexual contact. I would suggest that you invest yourself in the relationship in lots of other ways: conversation, spending time together, small gifts, cards, notes, texts–things that will help her know that you ARE committed to her, you ARE investing, you ARE thinking of her, even if the sexual fast is an important recovery tool for you. The truth is, you’re going to need to do a lot of work on the relationship, outside of just quitting porn. You might as well get started, and maybe she’ll feel safe enough for the sexual fast then, too. Blessings, Kay

  3. Felix – liberty careris with it the responsibility to do what is right. If we profess to be Catholics then we are bound by the Church’s Magisterium and Moral teaching which paradoxically set’s us free, and does not enslave us, something ‘the world’ has great difficulty in understanding.I would ask you to consider very carefully just which of these ‘certain restrictions’ you would agree with and how they would apply to your set of preferred political doctrines. Now multiply this by 100,000’s of individuals and the Church’s Teaching takes on a different meaning and set of values for everyone. Liberty can be a wolf in sheep’s clothing, often resulting in CONFUSION, exactly what the devil wants and the situation we are in today.God Bless.

  4. Everyone’s in here screaming about Catholicism and I’m just like, “I wanna learn more about not-porn”

    Good video, and good point. Thank you!

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