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Free Daily Encouragement for Those in Porn Recovery

Last Updated: September 30, 2016

There is a critical part to recovery that many people ignore. Perhaps it is a missing piece of your recovery. See if you can find it in this verse …

“See to it, brothers, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.” Hebrews 3:12-13

Sin is deceitful. It will say anything and do anything to get your attention and draw you in. It will use curiosity and enticement. It will find a way to lure you in and make you fall. After awhile we become hardened by it’s deceitfulness and our hearts stop believing and we turn away from the living God.

Porn Recovery: Daily Encouragement

So what is the antidote? Encouragement. Not just some encouragement but daily encouragement. Not just once a day but encouragement as long as it is still called “today”—which is another way of saying multiple times a day.

Every Christian is in a battle. You know that. We need the fullness of the Spirit to enable and empower us to walk in the Spirit so that we do not fulfill the desires of the flesh. We need to daily put on the full armor of God so that we can stand firm against the principalities and powers of darkness. We need to offer our bodies to God as living sacrifices. Daily.

However, where do you receive encouragement? When we are struggling and continuing to act out we are not able to encourage ourselves. We are isolating and fearful. We lie to ourselves and rationalize. We try to ignore the reality we are living in with all kinds of distractions and addictions.

If you are trying to recover you need encouragement. Daily. For the past 34 months I have been sending e-mails encouraging those who struggle with sexual brokenness and addiction. If you don’t get it from me, you need to get it from somewhere. Everyday. As long as it is called today. This is just a simple easy way to have it available to you. However, here are some even better ways.

  • Having someone you can call or meet with and talk to.
  • Taking time to sit with God, share your heart with Him and listen.
  • Having passage of Scripture memorized and meditate on them.
  • Having some friends on the Group Me app and send out an SOS.
  • Having at least one person with whom you can be completely real

Lastly, I saw this principle practiced by those involved in 12 Step Groups. They tell the new people who start their recovery that they need to do a 90 in 90. That means they go to 90 meetings in 90 days. Why? Because recovery is hard work. Changing patterns of addictive behavior is tremendously difficult.

So to get through the first 90 days one needs to have daily support. That is because one needs to get through withdrawal which is especially tough. Changing addictive behavior and rewiring our brains takes time and consistency.

On January 1, 2012 I started writing e-mails of encouragement to people who struggle with sexual brokenness. As I come to the end of doing this for three years I am surprised at the number of people who have contacted me and want to be added to the list. From some missionaries in Puebla Mexico to a single mom in Portland, Oregon. People are discovering how valuable having some encouragement can be. Since I am in my 10 year of my own recovery I speak to the issues we all face.

If you would like to receive these emails then contact me at doyel180@gmail.com, and I will add you to the list. If you ever want to stop getting them, just ask and they will stop. You can also read many that I have posted on my blog.

Stand Strong!

  1. Blake

    Porn is ruining my life. I don’t know if it’s real or just a placebo, but I can directly link terrible things happening in my life to when I relapse. I’ll be doing fine and loving life, then I slip back into it and the next day something awful happens. I’ve prayed for help so many times. Every time I fall back into it, God tells me to stop, and I know I need to stop, but I can’t seem to do it. Porn has controlled my life for over 4 years day to day, and I need healing. I can’t stop on my own, I refuse Gods help, and it’s ruining my life. I need an accountability partner. I need to change my path.

    • Chris McKenna

      Hi, Blake – I’m sorry that you’re struggling, but it sounds like you know what needs to be done. I want to strongly encourage you to follow through. Get rid of devices that tempt you. Get an accountability partner who can help you. Commit right now to do whatever it takes and tell as many people as possible that you’re making this choice. God is for you and so am I.

      Chris

  2. Kim

    I am a women who has had 6 back surgeries and i have female issues that im trying to get resolved.But i have caught my husband watching porn constantly on his phone i thought awhile ago me busting him and saying something would of corrected this but i caught him again the other day but didnt say anything to let him know i know.Im at a loss for words.I just don’t know how to fix this.But im glad to see im not the only one going through this.

    • Kay Bruner

      There’s not much you can do to “fix” this. Your husband has to be willing to do his own work. What you can do is process your pain, with a counselor, or in an online group like Bloom for Women. And you can create healthy boundaries for yourself. Here, here, and here are some article to get you started.

  3. Thomas Mealey

    I heard a guy say last night,”when I sin against my wife I sin against myself since we are one flesh. Pretty simple ,but profound.

  4. Daniel Nuner

    I have struggled with on line porn for years, on and off, I thought I could stop on my own but now realize I can’t. I need help. Embarrassing, yes, but hopefully through accountability and a good friend I can do it. Unfortunately, right now, I do not have a good friend to count on so I am seeking a sexual addiction group and counseling.
    I appreciate your website and work.
    Can we really be a christian and struggle with this for so many years?
    I have hurt my wife and that I this last thing that I wanted but it has brought me to this point Maybe I can be ‘fixed’? but the hurt I have caused her…I don’t know and it’s all my fault.

  5. George

    Add me in

  6. amanda

    i have overconme watching. pornography but the image won’t leave my mind and masturbation is my problem. i use the image in my mind to masturbate

    • Lisa Eldred

      Amanda, unfortunately the images can stay in our heads for a long time. If you find the images popping up in your head, I recommend actively seeking to replace the behavior of masturbation with something else. Just as a couple of examples, maybe immediately call your accountability partner asking for help, or journal out your struggles, or sing a song loudly and out of tune, or pick up a book. Eventually, you’ll retrain your mind not to dwell on those thoughts.

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