5 thoughts on “Resources for Wives of Porn Addicts

  1. I see no way of ever feeling good about myself again i feel so worthless and so unwanted and so unatractive and i just wish i could die and stop all the pain. Ive never felt anything as painful as knowing that the man im in love with would rather watch porn and masturbate then be with me its the most heart wrenching and soul shattering feeling in the world and id give anything to go back and never have met him cause this is the most horrible and humiliating feeliing for a person to have to feel and no one should ever ever be made to feel like this ever.

    • I am so sorry for the pain you’re experiencing. I strongly encourage you to find an experienced, trauma-informed professional therapist to help you process the pain, and to help you work through what healthy boundaries will look like for you. (Here, here, and here are some articles on boundaries to get you started.) You might also appreciate the online resources at Bloom for Women.

      It’s very common for women in a situation like this to meet the clinical criteria for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), so make sure you are getting the help you need.

      Whatever your partner chooses, YOU can choose to be healthy and well. His choices DO NOT define you!

      If he is not able to do his own work in recovery, you can still make healthy choices for yourself. You are not required to be a victim of his poor choices, ever. Reach out for the help you need, take care of you, and be well.

      Peace to you,
      Kay

    • I agree I feel so embarrassed and shame from how I look. Maybe hollywood lights and no relationship works for them. I don’t even want to put on sexy things because he may have seen it on someone with something simular and compair and I don’t measure up. GRR

    • You have summed up exactly how i feel. Every single day. Im so sorry you feel this way. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I just pray there is light at the end of the tunnel x

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