If Your Child Sees Porn: Preparing for the Discussion

What should you do when you discover your child has been looking at pornography? How do you keep from overreacting?

Recently, Dr. David Currie answered this question for me in an interview.

1. Delay having the discussion

Nothing is harmed if you take a day or two to think about what you’re going to say. To keep from overreacting, just distance yourself from the situation and give yourself some time to think.

2. Talk to your spouse

Talking to your spouse will help you developed a balanced attitude and approach to this conversation.

3. Write down your game plan

As ideas come to mind about how to approach this conversation, write down your thoughts. Ask yourself: When is the best time to have this conversation (to minimize distraction)? What resources do I need to get in place after the discussion is over (such as accountability and filtering software)?

To help you with this, download our free guide: When Your Child Is Looking at Porn: A Step-By-Step Guide for Christian Parents.

4. Pray to God for a redemptive attitude

Your attitude can make or break this conversation. Your attitude is as important as the words you say and the questions you ask. There is so much shame, guilt, and confusion swirling around this issue. It is important you approach this situation not as a distraught parent overwhelmed by your child’s misdeeds, but as a hopeful parent that can see this episode in the light of God’s mercy. He can take even this situation and make it work for the good of your child and your family.