It’s been another fantastic year for the Covenant Eyes blog. We’ve received more comments from you, our readers, this year than any year prior. Thanks for all the discussions!
These are the most read posts of the year…
“Modesty is a respectable manner of adorning one’s body and carrying oneself, born out of a freedom from a worldly definition of beauty and worth, and motivated by a hatred of sin and a desire to draw attention to God. When it comes to the subject of modest clothing, the first question we should ask ourselves is: What am I trying to accomplish by what I wear?”
“Porn makes promises it can’t keep, especially when it comes to hot sex in marriage. Porn won’t spice up your sex life, and it won’t make you a better lover. Science and psychology show that sharing porn with your spouse or having a secret affair with porn will mess up hot nights of passion, especially for the long haul. What will make sex better can be summed up in one word: intimacy.”
“For those who feel no guilt or shame about the matter, the question sounds ridiculous. For those who are utterly opposed to all masturbation, regardless of the internal dynamics that drive it, the question sounds irrelevant. But for those whom lust is their primary concern when it comes to masturbation, the question is of immense importance.”
When most of your life is immersed in the things of this world and its influences, then you will be influenced, controlled, and captured by the things of this world—and that warfare will be in your mind. A Gospel informed mind can easily take renegade thoughts captive to obey Christ. Take the battle in you seriously because your enemy takes it seriously.
“The wife’s biggest pain is that porn is a fantasy hidden away in his mind. It can’t be stopped or monitored by another unless the porn addict chooses. A wife can’t compete with a fantasy. She loses faith that their intimacy is real—it may just be a part of his fantasy about someone else he’s viewed. If she withdraws, he may use that as an excuse for his sin. If she gives, she may feel used, not loved. It feels like a no-win.”
“Over the years, I’ve learned the hard way that I need this daily shot of motivation to live pure for God. The daily review always has a powerful impact upon the rest of my day. I encourage other Christian men who have a background with porn to develop their own list of reasons/motives. Feel free to use any of mine that you want to. I don’t consider it plagiarism. If my bullet fits your gun, shoot it!”
“I’m not saying I’m a victim. No, I am failure. I fully see that. What’s more, I am alone. I have no one to help me. I once tried to tell my dear friend—our pastor’s wife—about my problem, but she said I was mistaken, that women don’t have issues with sexual addiction. She said that sex is for our husbands and we help them with their physical needs; I simply need to deal with my selfishness.”
“I swallowed these lies hook, line, and sinker because the idol of my heart was my husband and not God. I required my husband’s approval and looked to him as my compass and guide because of insecurities that I was unwilling to discuss with Christ. It is because of these unrealistic expectations I placed on our relationship that I chased after these lies and accepted them as a reality in my life.”
“The seeds of lust can be planted in the mind of a child many years before he is old enough to act out on what has been growing inside his heart. This is the message of James. In most cases the allurement and enticement of the porn addict began in the theater of his mind while he was a child. This has been a consistent pattern I have seen in counseling.”
“German poet Heinrich Heine said you cannot feed the hungry on statistics. Well-researched stats can only illuminate the problem, not solve it. But for many, the problem of pornography in our modern culture still needs a spotlight. What do some of the latest stats tell us about this sexual-media giant? Covenant Eyes has released a new conglomeration of pornography statistics based on some of the best research.”