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2 thoughts on “How do I hold someone accountable for their porn use?

  1. The only concern I would raise would be the role a spouse plays in accountability. That can be a slippery slope and depending on the situation and temperment of the spouse, it can be too great a burden to bear in some cases. I have found that setting your spouse up to receive weekly CE accountability reports is one of the most effective tools to use, but there does come a point where a gender-based accountability partner outside of the spouse is also critical. Because men and women think differently, the perspective of an accountability partner that is the same gender as you allows you to discuss things that your spouse may have blind spots to simply based on gender and the perspectives of how being male and female affects your flesh. Ideally, accountability through your spouse (if married) and an additional accountability partner is the best recipe for success to begin with.

    The other more paramount issue is that accountability cannot be forced to be effective. You have to want it, be committed to it, and be willing to do whatever it takes in the context of transparency and vulnerability in order to experience freedom over the lusts of the flesh. True change occurs in the heart, and that begins by owning your sin and deciding for yourself that you are sick and tired or being sick and tired…and by God’s grace, you will submit to the authority of Scripture and to the accountability of a Biblical partner in Christ.

    • Amen, Daniel. Totally agree. So would Bill Struthers.

      The spousal accountability question is a big one. We have had numerous posts on our blog about that. I’ve done a few interviews with some Christian teachers about that. We have a large number of our married accountability users that send their reports to their wives, but the dynamics of that relationship differ from couple to couple.

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