Porn and Your Husband

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Did you catch your husband watching porn? Learn the answers to common questions, tips to productive conversations, steps to setting boundaries, and how to determine the next steps for your marriage.

6 thoughts on “4 Myths About Porn Use

  1. Lisa,

    Your first point is very important, but knowing it’s wrong and not okay is still not enough to stop most guys — because they’re being taught the lie that they’ll go to heaven no matter what. But this is the opposite of what the Bible teaches, and what the Holy Spirit showed me in a dream that I share in the article, below. Many would stop if they only understood the truth about who really goes to heaven. jesus warned us….

    Also, I have to disagree about your point #2. Guys lust viewing nude bodies whether they’re portrayed as art or as overt porn. If guys say they aren’t, it’s most likely they’re not telling the truth. Lying is another sin that will keep us out of heaven: Revelation 21:8.

    My article, which no one can refute, but most pastors won’t preach the truth. Most pastors are probably lusting, themselves. Jesus specifically warned us that looking at a woman to lust after her is committing adultery in our hearts, and it’s better to cut out our eye than to lose their whole body in Hell. And this was emphasized in a dream that I had, which I explain here:

    Who-Goes-To-Heaven Scriptures — Narrow is the Way | Who are the Children of God?

    http://onecanhappen.wordpress.com/2008/01/14/who-goes-to-heaven-scriptures

    • Hi Jeff,

      You’re right. Knowing porn is wrong doesn’t stop most men, and often art that involves nudity does incite lust (if not always). My point, however, was simply to tell wives that these are lies their husbands may tell them to justify their use of porn, and to expose them for the lies they are.

  2. Some good insights here. However, there is some truth to the fact that when a wife emotionally abuses her husband by using sex as a reward or weapon for desired behavior, men will turn to fantasy and masturbation because it’s so easy to access. To suggest that pornography in a marriage is only the husband’s problem is to be both naive and a little sexist. I always counsel THE COUPLE in these situations, not just the man. There is usually greater success in overcoming porn addictions when the wife’s behavior in the marriage is also addressed, owned, and fixed.

    • Everyone takes actions, everyone has to be accountable for their actions. Eve gave Adam the apple. Adam didn’t have to eat it! The world wants us to believe that sin is Eve’s fault yet God doesn’t see it that way. God punished Eve but he holds Adam to a higher accountability.

      Have you ever noticed in the Bible that when a man turns to God his whole household follows?

      Man has to be accountable for his sins in marriage and usually the woman will follow. Turn that around with the woman leading, the man doesn’t follow. No matter how good of a wife she is, if he’s addicted to porn and doesn’t want the help he will continue to be addicted to pron for the rest of his life!

  3. Plain and simple. A man shouldn’t watch porn because it is wrong… regardless of whether he is suffering because of a neglectful wife.

    But his responsibility does NOT give wives a blank check to be sexually unavailable to her husband. A wife who has is chronically indifferent to her husband’s pleasure doesn’t need to take the blame for porn, but she is also sinning in a big way!

    God made men with higher sex drives. Sex is part of a wife’s love for her husband. Your last “myth” reads more like a talking point from a feminist blog than a religious understanding of marital sexuality.

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