- Thursday, February 17th, 2011
- Written By Rick Thomas
- Categories: Accountability Partner Resources, Lust - Fighting the Battle Back to Blog Home
Facebook: a new kind of false intimacy
Jeremy posted the wrong age on his Facebook page. Phillip has no picture of his wife in any of his photos. Camille has replaced Oprah with Facebook. Jan has reconnected with two of her old college boyfriends and has not told her husband. Wallace has no idea how much time his wife spends on Facebook. George does not state that he is married on his page.
These stories are true, though the names have been changed.
If Facebook were a country, it would be the third largest country in the world. For most of us it is a good and useful tool. However, it is not surprising that it is also a source of temptation for the dissatisfied and discontented.
There is no place where Facebook’s sinful side is more prominent than in marriages that have not lived up to one or both of the spouse’s expectations.
Will You Like Me?
Facebook has become the new false intimacy. It is relatively safe. It can provide a perception of genuine, authentic relationships. It is better than the video game craze because while you can interact with Facebook or gaming in the privacy of your home, Facebook has real people on the other end of it. (I do realize there is interaction with real people in some video games, but Facebook provides a different kind of temptation through cyber relationships.)
John told me that the reason he uses a different name and age on his Facebook profile is because he wants people to like him and feels his best shot at being liked is to change his identity. His Facebook name is Al and instead of using his real age, 43, he poses as a 23-year old single college student. He told me he didn’t think he was a bad person, as his wife tells him, because people like him on Facebook. Interestingly, his real life relationships are dysfunctional, while his Facebook relationships give the perception of being normal. John says that this is because his real life relationships do not understand him and therefore, the dysfunction is their fault.
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While my CE settings currently block the rest of the article, I can see a lot of value in it.
Facebook is a festering wound. Sure, that cut makes you look tough or whatever, but it really causes trouble.
To correct you, it would be the second largest, only dwarfed by China.
This article’s biggest strength is the use of real-life scenarios that could await us around the corner. That is why I have not accessed my account in two years. I connected with a handful of necessary friends, but I have no need now. The fun we have from continually monitoring another’s “Wall” is not worth the risk of sexual exploitation or infidelity.