When it comes to overcoming bad habits, choosing a good accountability partner is key.
As the video shows, Mr. Accountability is not the sort of partner we need:
- Accountability partners are fellow strugglers, not moral giants. They need to be able to sympathize with the struggle, either because they have struggled through it themselves or because they have successfully counseled those who have. Good accountability partners shouldn’t be baffled by weaknesses or see themselves as above the problem.
- Accountability partners are fellow travelers, not cops. A cop is someone who is just looking over your shoulders for you to screw up. You only interact with a cop when he catches you breaking the law. When accountability partners have a “cop mentality” they only plan on being around to penalize us when we’ve been bad. But a real friend isn’t someone who merely polices your life. A real friend is someone who is willing to get in the vehicle with you, helps you drive in the lines, travels with you in life, in good times and bad, helps you look out for the potholes, helps you read the road signs, helps you get to where you are going.
- Accountability partners are fellow soldiers, not wimps. As the ancient proverb goes, “Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.” Real friends are willing to call us out when we’ve given up on our commitments, willing to confront us without condemning us. They don’t shy away from the hard stuff or become wimps in the face of our faults. They help us fight.
If you are trying to break the habit of looking at Internet pornography, sign up for Covenant Eyes Accountability Software and choose a good accountability partner. Choose someone who is willing to be your fellow struggler, a fellow traveler, and a fellow soldier.