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17 thoughts on “Pastor Confesses to 16-Year Porn Addiction

  1. Great blog. I, too was very sad when I heard of this news. It’s easy to get angry about it but you’re right, he and his family need our prayers more than ever right now!

  2. Hey Luke,

    Thanks for dropping by my blog (diaryofdanny.blogspot.com), i agree with you that the christian community should forgive him… and we are in no position and given any rights to judge him… God will judge him and it is good that he finally came to realization especially when the Lord spoke to him.. he is really being set free and in his healing process..

    As you said.. it is a wake up call for all of us, not just for Mike… that God is real!

    By the way, I really salute you and for this web page Covenant eyes for doing great work and impacting people’s lives..

    God Bless,
    DannyBoy

  3. My heart breaks for him, his family and church. I understand his pain and loneliness because I myself have struggled with this addiction since I was about ten years old. There are day I feel like I just can’t go on and then I remember Jesus loves me. This sin carries such a burden that even though you know you’re not alone you can’t help but feel all alone. My wife has rejected any attempt to be open and honest about my struggle and that has let to a very strained relationship. I’m now 45 and we have two beautiful kids. I have prayed for God to just take me now before I damage my families name and His name. My heart and prayers go out to all men and women that struggle with this very real Cancer in the soul of society.

  4. Hey thanx man for dropping by my blog..yea i totally agree with you…its not our place to judge a man..if we look at ourselves, we are not worthy of even judging a man by his sin because by nature we are all sinful but its only by the grace of God that we have been forgiven and our sin paid for already..its just up to us to make the choice to do the right thing and confess our sin and repent… but i personally believe that it was a good thing that he came out and confessed about the whole lie..can you imagine what would have happened if he was found out by someone else?…that would cause an even bigger impact on the church and Christians and Unbelievers..at least he is doing the right thing by fixing his wrong..by the way…great blog you have here…keep up the good work..

  5. Great blog. What a unique and compassionate perspective on this issue. Ben and I really enjoyed it.
    Thanks and keep up the good work….

  6. hey luke,

    thanks for dropping by my blog too. i’ve heard this news from a fren of mine and i decided to write bout this news too.. even though we’re oceans apart, we will continue to support him and his family in prayer. may God grant him strength to go on.

    take care everyone and God bless.

    mabel from malaysia.

  7. This story is why I believe in what Covenant Eyes (CE) is all about. For years (even before I knew of CE) I was talking about changing desires & choices instead of slapping on a filter that would remove not only pornography but also an individual’s responsibility to make right choices.

    May the sadness of Michael’s story be a call to humility for all of us. I realize that I am one click away from the same destruction.

  8. can you imagine the kind of strength it took to stand up in front of millions and confess all that? yes, he did wrong, but he could’ve kept on hiding it and avoided all the consequences he now faces. I personally believe if the man had the guts to confess like that, then he’s gonna make it. what’s really sad is when the man with the addiction never confesses until they’re caught. (and even then sometimes, try to explain it away) Even sadder when the pattern continues over and over, for years, with the man saying he wants to change, but he doesn’t. (and still doesn’t see that he has an addiction)I would love to see cov eyes have a support section for wives, because men cannot truly understand the devestation they cause us. Yes, they see the tears, anger, frustration, but they don’t get the depth of it; how it can make us question their faithfulness to us, how it makes us wonder if they’ve had affairs, how it eats away at our very being, telling us we’re not good enough, skinny enough, pretty enough, etc, whatever the case may be, and although we know in our heads that is not true, that it is not our fault, it is a mortal wound to the lifeblood of the wife and marriage. And guys, if you suffer with this addiction, please understand that when your wife finds out, (even if it’s bc you confess) she is bound to be hurting for a while, so please don’t be angry, or assume she doesn’t love you anymore because she doesn’t want you to touch her, then you lash out and do it again bc of her rejection. You need to understand that this addiction makes us feel like we are garbage, worthless in your eyes; it devalues us as your treasure. We feel dirty, sad, sick, all at the same time. Sometimes we even lose all desire. (which also is not good!) Best advice I can give you? Do everything you can to show her you want to change. From installing cov eyes, to marriage counciling, to being accountable for your wherabouts at all times. If you love her, do whatever you have to do to get rid of the addiction before she decides it’s just too painful to keep going through year after year, cuts her losses, and moves on. Which is, btw, something no loving wife initially wants to do; but put them through the wringer enough times with this thing, and she’s gonna assume eventually that it’s more important to you than she is. One last thing; you’d be surprised how many wives would stand by their husbands and fight through it with him, if he confessed w/o being caught, and was ready to do any and everything possible to make it right. So give her that chance; she may surprise you. And you may surprise yourself, by finding that she is more precious to you than the temptation. PS I think I will start my own page on this; seems I have a lot to say. just gotta figure out how to start one…

  9. Daphne,

    I agree that it took some guts to go public about his addiction. He knew the truth was going to hurt many people.

    We do have a section in our blog for “Wives of Porn Addicts” and we will continue to add helpful resources and articles in that section, including resources from counselors and pastors.

    I encourage you to check out PornAddictHubby.com and see what forums and resources they have.

  10. Addictions are a part of the “worldly” life, a life that we as teachers and ministers of the Word must overcome. My personal addictions (drugs and alcohol) in the past still haunt me from time to time. I have overcome my addictions through my faith in Jesus’ healing power and the Grace of God and so will this young man.
    He will or has been forgiven, but I feel that he too will answer for what he has done in mis-leading so many Christians into believing that his “sickness” was another source. Sickness of the mind that corrupts all morality is in my opinion the worst sickness that we as teachers of the Word have to cope with. My prayers go out to him, his family, and to all the people in the world who are trying to free themselves from the slavery to lust of any kind.

  11. thanks for visit my blog, your blog are great and with so much information. Hope that he will be healed. Definately i think this incident really wake many ppl up especially those who hidden themselves from their own personal struggle =) God’s glory still shine through this time.

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