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  1. I am a wife of a recovering addict and we went to a christian counselor and we went several times and I really felt that everything was going well. I am now 31 weeks pregnant. We tried for three years with five miscarriages and after test upon test I was told by two different doctors that I was normal. So this past Christmas I sent my doctors cards and told them that we would be taking no more tests and that we were going to Let GO and Let GOD. A week later I was pregnant with my miracle child. God has been so good to us and the hard time that I have with all of this is the fact that he could do this to me at such a vunerable time as pregnancy after all that we have been through. I know he has a sickness and I know that I have to do spiritual warfare in order to gain victory in all of this and trust my Lord that he will rip this desire for filth from him and in essence me too because we are one flesh. I found a wonderful free filter called K-9 web filter which allows me to view what is being viewed on our computer and allows me to control when the computer can be accessed and it gives me a custom setting so I can block what I want to block or you can just let K-9 block for you. The choice is yours. Recently, my husband tried to go into my yahoo account and he went into the spam emails and tried to download some emails to some sexually explicit sites. I never click on these sites so with K-9 I knew while I was sitting at work that he had tried to download and I confronted him and asked him did he and he said yes and that he was not trying to hide it. The first time I caught him I was around 8 weeks pregnant and I was so devastated. He was on a online swingers site looking at naked women. Not only that but black women and Russian Mail Order brides which infuriated me due to human trafficking. This time he just brought all that anger back and it has not been but a few weeks and he was seeing a christian counselor but he went away for the summer months and he talked so much to him about God’s grace that he neglected to talk about the wife I think. So I have pretty much told my husband that he needs to get help and fast and that I was not going to keep putting up with this and that he needs to find an accountablilty partner. I am not going to have this in my home with my child. No way and No how. I told him as a child of divorce myself that he needs to think of what this would do to our child if he can not stop his selfish addiction and I asked him, What do I need to do put up a picture of our child on the computer to make you stop and think? I thank God for K-9 because if it were not for the blocking of these sites from our computer than he would be up to his old tricks again and now that I have control of the computer that is not possible. Not only did I install this for my peace of mind but the peace of mind when my daughter gets old enough I will not have to worry about what site she is on because I can block all chat rooms as well. Not only that but I can download this program for free on any computer. Laptops also. I hope that this helps some of you out there dealing with the same problems as I. I am so pleased to find someone willing to not charge for something that works better than the programs out there that you get charged for. I just wanted to share this for had it not been for K-9 I do not want to think where my husband would have gone. He is now going to start counseling with a new counselor and I pray that this one will hold him accountable. God Bless!

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